I am in an amazing relationship and I am so happy to have found someone I can truly be myself with. Our sex life is great; I rarely orgasm through penetrative sex which we discuss, and he always ensures that I orgasm another way, usually before he does. I know he genuinely loves me and I love him but I find this situation very frustrating. Am I being really selfish? Is this just how guys are built physically? Should I be bothered about this at all?
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Archives of Sexual Behavior. The main objective of this investigation was to ascertain whether there are, in the female, periods of sexual excitation or arousal during REM sleep similar to the cycle of penile erections in the male. In a group of 10 subjects, 21—35, utilizing a thermoconductance method that gives a measure of vaginal blood flow VBF , we are able to confirm that females manifest cyclic episodes of vascular engorgement during REMPs equivalent to erections in men. The increases in VBF, in terms of rises of the recording pen on the graph paper, varied from 10 to 45 mm.
If you've ever had fantastic sex, the type of sex riddled in orgasms, there's a chance that afterward you might feel tired. Or, maybe you had one hell of an orgasm, and feel ready to go for another round — or three or four — instead. Honestly, it could go one way or the other. While there are those who feel totally wiped out after sex and ready for a nap , there are also those who feel like they're able to take on the world after sex. Women tend to release more dopamine than men do and this can actually wake you rather then make you feel sleepy.