He recently asked me to pleasure myself in front of him, and it's not the first time he has made this request. I've heard this can be really hot for couples and I want to try it, but I'm worried I'll feel awkward the whole time. How can I masturbate for my BF without feeling so uncomfortable? Let me start this off by saying that your situation is a fairly common one. Even though we've come a long way in our journey to sexual empowerment, many women still have a stigma attached to masturbation: It's a private activity that is certainly not talked about, let alone performed in front of another person, so I don't blame you for feeling a bit self-love-shy.
When I first met my husband, he was a fun, confident, and affectionate person. He worked in sales and I was getting my personal training certification to launch a big career change. It was the second marriage for both of us, so we felt like we had learned a lot from our previous relationships to really make this one work. For a while, I believed we'd really make it—he'd take me to amazing dinners, on romantic weekend trips, and we'd spend hours talking and laughing. And sexuality was never an issue. He was the first one to crack a dirty joke and our physical chemistry was off the charts. Over time, though, our sex life changed.
For some reason, a lot of women see their boyfriend masturbating as a negative thing. But just like us, dudes are perfectly within their rights to see to themselves when they need to. It's doesn't mean we're sexually inadequate and not giving them what they need. Plus, watching them do it can be seriously arousing.
When Trevor not his real name came home a little early from a night out with the guys, he expected to climb into bed with his girlfriend. The teddy bear thing made me wonder if there was something in her childhood that went wrong. It doesn't make her a freak, nor is it a sign of sexual abuse. It really is more common than most think. That said, going fast and furious with a teddy bear to heavy metal music is the least of the oddities when it comes to the habits around female masturbation.