For 24 years we've been battling with ourselves as a nation but as we try again and again to unite regardless of our race, could our prejudices in the dating game be something that is holding us back? It has been a dark week in our country, where racism has once again reared its ugly head in the form of a racial outburst from a white South African holidaying in Greece. The country shook at the core and it added new fuel to the race debate but on the other side of the world just a few days ago there was a debate of a different kind. Sadly, both were built on stereotypes and prejudices. A picture of former American president Barack Obama's daughter Malia out with her white boyfriend was shared by an American publication and attracted so many comments you would be busy from now until the elections in reading all of them.
I am in a relationship with an African-American man, which has impacted my perspective on race in ways that will affect me for the rest of my life. While dating someone of my own race, this topic never came up in conversation. For my whole life I had been comfortable in a white bubble, separated from the melting pot of race. Here are 5 things that I now realize happen when you are dating someone of a different race. One day I hope this will not be the case:. Not until racial slurs directly affected me personally did I realize how often they were being used. I now pick up on microaggressions every day.
I am a black woman who has dated outside my race a few times, specifically white men. Yet, there were times when the topic of race became such a challenge that we had to cut ties. For a long time, I questioned why someone would have any type of romantic relationship with someone outside their race if they held these underlying feelings.
When she goes on dating apps, she screens out anyone from another race. The explosion in the popularity of dating apps — four in 10 adults in the UK say they have used them — has exposed some uncomfortable truths about what we want from our potential partners, particularly when it comes to the colour of their skin. But when does a preference tip over into racism? And what should apps be doing to help combat prejudice on their platforms? Non-black men were less likely to start conversations with black women, they found, while all women preferred men of their own race.