I am in an amazing relationship and I am so happy to have found someone I can truly be myself with. Our sex life is great; I rarely orgasm through penetrative sex which we discuss, and he always ensures that I orgasm another way, usually before he does. I know he genuinely loves me and I love him but I find this situation very frustrating. Am I being really selfish? Is this just how guys are built physically? Should I be bothered about this at all?
The use of medical language mystifies human experience, increasing dependence on professionals and experts. If sexuality becomes fundamentally a matter of vasocongestion and myotonia… personal experience requires expert interpretation and explanation. Freud, as brilliant as he was, defined just two types of female orgasm— vaginal and clitoral. Masters and Virginia Johnson studied thousands of women having orgasms in their laboratory. A number of people have come up with a variety of models of the female orgasm.
So, you're intrigued by the idea of multiple orgasms. Wanting to experience one after the other is completely normal as is preferring to tap out after the first one and fall into a restorative post-sex slumber. Here, experts explain why many women's bodies are practically designed to have multiple orgasms, and sexual strategies for making them way more likely the next time you feel up for round two.
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