It's sad, but true: Climaxing for women is anything but easy. If you're struggling, these sneaky problems could be causing issues in the bedroom. Chaining yourself to that desk chair may make your boss happy, but it's bad news for your pelvic muscles. Sitting all day shortens them, and that can lead to pelvic pain that makes it more difficult to orgasm , says marriage and sex therapist Kat Van Kirk , Ph. To prevent problems, she suggests setting an alarm as a reminder to move every half-hour to hour during the work day. Some activity trackers and smart watches, like the Fitbit Versa , will buzz your wrist to encourage steps every hour.
While the clitoris is fun and good for a laugh or a warmup, if you really want to harness the power of your sexual energy, you need to go deeper. Then, they found me, and I told them that all women were able to have G-Spot orgasms and all others. The game-changing factor that separates the girls from the women or the clitoris from the vagina is the ability to open up, drop your guard, and surrender. These deeper, internal orgasms call on the deeper, internal parts of you. Your vulnerability, your authentic self—they need to be present.
Having an orgasm is natural. So is skipping, for instance. Someone presumably taught you how to coordinate your body, and soon you were doing it on your own, any time you felt like it.